10 Ways To Have The Wild Sex She Craves

Everyone wants sex, but no one’s talking dirty. Dig deep into the sexual psyches of thousands of men and women around the country and this little irony stands out.

Lack of communication—not lack of interest—is the top bedroom complaint for men. For women, it ranks second, just behind too-short foreplay. Combined with tips from our experts, here is an instruction manual for giving her what she wants, every time, while at the same time indulging your inner freakiness. See, it’s a win-win. Let the dialogue begin. Turn Her On Instantly Women want sex just as much as—if not more than—men do. But women often feel shy about making the first move. Too shy, say the 66 percent of men who wish women would initiate more often. How to bring her out of her sexual shell? Coax her. Tempt her. Tease her as if she were a cat chasing a feather on a string, advise our experts. Give her a deep, sigh-inducing kiss—then stop. Or pull her close, press tight against her thigh, then move away. You’re letting her know you’re open to her advance but making her bring it to the next level of intimacy. Once she’s comfortable making the moves, she’ll be more likely to pounce when the urge strikes. Take Her Home Tonight She probably won’t be shocked if you suggest she come back to your place after a first date. But will she say yes? Make this your litmus test. 1. Graze her thigh. As you flirt, stand or sit within 6 inches of her. If she seems unruffled, move closer. Eventually you want your thigh to be pressed against hers, whether you’re standing or sitting. If she’s into it, move on to step two. If she squirms, back off. 2. Plant one, already. A make-out session is a prerequisite to a sexual proposition. Pay attention to how intensely she’s kissing back. You want the “I want to eat you alive, starting with your head” kind of kiss, not the sweet little “I’m not really a dirty girl” kind of kiss. 3. Pop the question. Your approach can be either funny (“So, what do you say we go back to my place for milkshakes and games?”); hesitant and humble (“I don’t even know how to ask you this, but I would really love to be alone with you”); or straightforward and sweet (“Please, God, tell me that we can go home together”). Dial back the sleaze factor and, chances are, if she’s been shoving her tongue down your throat, any one of them could probably end up working. Follow Her Lead Foreplay can be a fact-finding mission, not just a necessary evil. Syncing the way you communicate in bed—verbally and nonverbally—will rev her engines more quickly. Try a technique called “sensate focus”: “During foreplay, agree that the genitals are off limits. Touch the other parts of her body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns her on, and ask her to describe how it feel. Watch and listen for nonverbal clues, too—moans, thrusts, gasps. Work her hot spots properly and she’ll be begging to move to the main event, in which you’ll watch for those same signals. The better you’re able to read her, the more likely you’ll reach a happy ending. Score Before Breakfast The hard sell seldom works. Here’s how to heat her up before breakfast. 1. Wake up earlier. A woman won’t want sex if she feels hurried. Her clitoris won’t respond to even the most skilled touch if she’s worried about being late for work. And besides, she needs about 20 minutes to reach orgasm, anyway. Set the alarm early or, better yet, make your move on the weekend to ensure that she’s relaxed and responsive. 2. Whisper, don’t poke. Women need aural stimulation to help kill self-consciousness about eye boogers and bed head. So pull her close and say, “You’re so beautiful in the morning,” or, “I love waking up with you.” If you’re spooning, thaw her out with some sensual kisses to the back of her neck. 3. Bring her some juice. Juice masks morning breath, and the citrus will jumpstart her arousal system. Bonus: Vitamin C boosts your adrenaline, giving you extra stamina. She’ll appreciate that. Find Your Rhythm Don’t sell yourself short. Every guy I’ve ever, um, known has confessed that he didn’t think his penis size was anything to write home about. But they were all perfectly well hung. Make the most of what you have by using powerful, deep thrusts at a slow-to-medium pace. It can be wonderfully intense. Piston-like porno thrusting feels horrible. It can leave a girl dry, sore, and bored. Add side-to-side movement, or up-and-down pelvic pressure against her clitoris when you’re all the way inside, to vary the stimulation. Kiss Better Below “Being too rough” is the worst mistake men make during oral sex, the ladies said. Guys think they need to thrust and flick. But often what she wants is a firm, still tongue—a point of pressure—so she can set the rhythm and pace. Another trick: Ask her to kiss your earlobe with the same pressure she prefers during oral, then cop her style next time you’re south of the border. Make a Bigger Bang When you feel your point of no return approaching—it’s technically called “ejaculatory inevitability”—treat it as a cue to start stimulating her in a different way. Massage her clitoris with your fingers. Or, while inside her, press against it with the part of your abdomen just above your penis. Or stop and give her oral for a while. If you’re smooth, she’ll have no idea you’re just trying to regulate your ejaculation. But all you have to do is let your system settle from its excited point. Unleash Her Wild Side Sexual experimentation is earned, not inherited. Unless you’re dating a dominatrix, it requires time, tact, and trust: 66 percent of the women we surveyed said they’re most willing to experiment later in a relationship. How can you put yourself on the fast track? Make her feel like she won’t be judged. There’s the whole ‘slut’ complex you have to get past.” Here’s a three-step plan for jump-starting her wildest desires. Watch and Learn Masturbation isn’t just her release valve; it’s your sex school—if she’ll let you watch. It’s very intimate, but it is important for her to share what she likes. Lower the stage-fright factor by encouraging her to guide your hands. Once she’s okay with sharing, she might be willing to start a toy box—or pry open the one she’s been hiding from you. Fulfill Her Every Fantasy A woman’s sexual thoughts are kinky and creative. Becoming someone else can unlock those desires. Translation: She’ll be up for acting out her wildest fantasies. Some women like the rush of being swept away. So, what are you waiting for, men? There’s a damsel in distress in the next room. Go save her